Four year relationship dating
He expects her to change…and she expects him to stay the same.
This happens when the guy gets married to a working woman, and then expects her to give up her career for him.
You have to get past the (valid and often necessary) stage of curling up on your couch and really mourning the loss of your relationship and to the point where you're back in the swing of work, hobbies, friends, and everything else your life normally includes.
"This way, you will feel whole and in high self-esteem before you go back into the next relationship and won't just be trying to fill that hole," says Sherman.
We've reached a point where we think now is the time for us to either prepare to get married or we go our separate ways.
We've been together for too long to just keep on going and doing nothing. I'm only 21, he's been the only serious, long-term relationship I've had.
On the other hand, you might need less time if your relationship was very short.
If we broke up it would be like a family memeber died. That he needs to be 100% sure that he wants to marry me, ect and he is not. After another week i emailed him and told him that i know we can work things out. How can he date someone after 2 months of breaking up when we were together for 4 years. It sounds like he's hurting alot, and boys seem to take stupid measures to stop the pain.
He said that he has not been the boyfriend that i deserve and has to "let me go" even though he doesn't want to. He deleted his facebook account cuz he said he doesn't want to know what I am doing cuz it would hurt too much. I think that pushed him more away.emailed me back saying we cant be together now, we would be miserable together. I can't even think of being with someone else right now. We were soo comfortable with one another and best friends. A rebound is a good distraction, but after a while he'll recognize it's hollowness.
More important than the specific amount of time you need, though, is the state of mind you're in.
You want to make sure you're not still in post-breakup mode.